This is a response to an article that I saw floating around on Facebook today titled "To the Thirtysomething Mums". Maybe it is because I had insufficient sleep last night (nothing to do with my age or being a mom BTW!) but this article seriously got on my nerves. I think it made me so emotional because I used to believe the same things that this author talks about.
As you can see here, that's me as a somewhat new mom on the left. I was wearing the typical "mom" tankini (as noted in the blog post), I was about 40 lbs heavier, I was definitely overtired, and I too had lost my SELF. Becoming a new mom was so much more stressful than I ever anticipated that it would be! I had the same stories in my head about how I had to make these "sacrifices" because I was a mom and my son was the main priority. I used to make constant jokes and remarks about my body and my new lifestyle and it was to cover up my insecurities and guilt.
So here is my response to this blog... Being a mom does not mean you have to fork over your identity. That is complete BS. #SorryNotSorry
When I had given up my SELF at that time I was stressed, anxious, depressed, frantic. You think that made me a good mom? Heck no!
I always like to refer to the good old oxygen mask analogy: on the airplane they instruct you to put your oxygen mask on first before anyone else, EVEN your children. That is because you cannot help anyone else until you get yourself taken care of. So yeah, YOU DO matter!
Once I finally had enough of feeling unhealthy and unhappy I knew I had to step up and make a change not only for myself but for our family. And I'll tell you that once I started to reclaim my self back, life got so much better for our family! I was more energized, less stressed, more confident, and overall feeling healthy and happy. I was finally able to be the mom and wife that I truly wanted to be.
Now, instead of being at the beach staring at all those other moms (and wanting to cover myself underneath a tarp), I'm out there in my bikini not caring a damn thing about anyone else on the beach except us. I just turned 37 and I'm more happy with who I am and how I live my life than I ever have been before.
I don't think that life is going to get easier when I'm in my 40s, and I don't think that I would be more toned and rested if I were in my 20s. I also don't think it's cool to compare yourself to others or live a life where you don't feel DAMN GOOD! I do know that us women are strong, fierce and amazing forces! (Helloooooo our bodies can grow humans, birth them, and feed them!). I know that we can do anything when we set our minds to it!
So please ... Don't let your SELF go. Please.
PS: If you didn't read the blog post you can view it HERE.
So here is my response to this blog... Being a mom does not mean you have to fork over your identity. That is complete BS. #SorryNotSorry
When I had given up my SELF at that time I was stressed, anxious, depressed, frantic. You think that made me a good mom? Heck no!
I always like to refer to the good old oxygen mask analogy: on the airplane they instruct you to put your oxygen mask on first before anyone else, EVEN your children. That is because you cannot help anyone else until you get yourself taken care of. So yeah, YOU DO matter!
Once I finally had enough of feeling unhealthy and unhappy I knew I had to step up and make a change not only for myself but for our family. And I'll tell you that once I started to reclaim my self back, life got so much better for our family! I was more energized, less stressed, more confident, and overall feeling healthy and happy. I was finally able to be the mom and wife that I truly wanted to be.
Now, instead of being at the beach staring at all those other moms (and wanting to cover myself underneath a tarp), I'm out there in my bikini not caring a damn thing about anyone else on the beach except us. I just turned 37 and I'm more happy with who I am and how I live my life than I ever have been before.
I don't think that life is going to get easier when I'm in my 40s, and I don't think that I would be more toned and rested if I were in my 20s. I also don't think it's cool to compare yourself to others or live a life where you don't feel DAMN GOOD! I do know that us women are strong, fierce and amazing forces! (Helloooooo our bodies can grow humans, birth them, and feed them!). I know that we can do anything when we set our minds to it!
So please ... Don't let your SELF go. Please.
PS: If you didn't read the blog post you can view it HERE.
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